Mediation and Divorce Blog - Equitable Mediation Services

The decision to get a divorce is a very difficult one no matter where you live or what the circumstances.

But while some may think the decision itself is the hardest part of the divorce process, the choice of using divorce mediation vs divorce lawyer can be an even more challenging one if you don't know the differences between the two.

With a little education, you can make the decision that's right for you in your situation.

I know what you’re thinking...

Why as a divorce mediator are you writing about how to save a marriage relationship? Isn’t it your job to help couples end their marriage with a no-fault divorce?

Honestly, I was thinking the same thing…

Yes, my job is to help couples divorce peacefully and it isn't my role to provide marriage therapy and help a husband and wife find a way to save the marriage. But divorce mediation is only appropriate when both spouses are on the same page.

If one of you wants to end your marriage but the other wants to know how to save a marriage on the brink of divorce, there’s not much I can do.

• If you're an older couple divorcing after a long-term marriage, it's referred to as a gray divorce or late life divorce.

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• In a gray divorce, there are a number of critical issues you need to be aware of so your divorce doesn't go sideways.

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• If you don't want to waste money or time on your divorce, or add stress to your life, here's what to do to get the best result.

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While the overall divorce rate has flattened for most age groups, there is one segment of the population where divorce rates are actually increasing - couples in long-term marriages.

A phenomenon known as gray divorce.

Certainly divorce is difficult no matter how long you've been married or how old you are. But if you're divorcing after a long-term marriage, there's a whole lot you need to know - and watch out for!