Mediation and Divorce Blog - Equitable Mediation Services

• If you're an older couple divorcing after a long-term marriage, it's referred to as a gray divorce or late life divorce.

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• In a gray divorce, there are a number of critical issues you need to be aware of so your divorce doesn't go sideways.

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• If you don't want to waste money or time on your divorce, or add stress to your life, here's what to do to get the best result.

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While the overall divorce rate has flattened for most age groups, there is one segment of the population where divorce rates are actually increasing - couples in long-term marriages.

A phenomenon known as gray divorce.

Certainly divorce is difficult no matter how long you've been married or how old you are. But if you're divorcing after a long-term marriage, there's a whole lot you need to know - and watch out for!

Ok, that’s it – you can't do it anymore. You’re done.

You’ve tried your hardest, but you just can’t seem to make your marriage work.

You want a divorce.

But how do you start a divorce conversation with your spouse without devastating them or triggering an all-out war?

One of the most common questions we're asked about is how to tell your spouse you want a divorce.

Well, there’s no one-size-fits-all answer, but here are a few tips for how to ask for a divorce nicely and help make an uncomfortable conversation go as smoothly as possible:

• The way you conduct yourself during your divorce will lay the groundwork for your life afterwards. That's why you're smart if you want to have an amicable divorce.

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• Not divorcing amicably will really cost you.

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• Here's what an amicable divorce looks like and what you must do to have one.

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After years of soul-searching and months of counseling, you’ve made the difficult decision to end your marriage.

But don’t want your divorce or separation to be a knock-down, drag-out brawl.

One where you and your spouse hate each other when it’s over. Spend hundreds of thousands of dollars on divorce attorneys or litigating in court. And scar your children for life by destroying their family.

Instead, you want to have a peaceful divorce.

But you don’t know how or if it’s even possible.

So before you do anything, let’s first take a closer look at what it means to divorce amicably. And discuss five things you'll need to do to plan an amicable divorce process from the start.