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Spousal Support California

You’re at the crossroads of a divorce and the same worries keep flooding your mind:

• “Can I afford to keep the marital home?”
• “Will I be able to pay my bills and meet my financial responsibilities?”
• “How will I get health insurance coverage after my marriage ends?”
• “Will I have enough financial resources to be able to save for my retirement?”

All of these fears are typical in divorce and have one thing in common:

Money.

When it comes to money and divorce, there's one topic that's more stressful, more emotional and more difficult for parties to resolve than any other.

Whether you call it alimony or spousal support, California couples needing to come to an agreement that will require one ex-spouse to pay money to the other ex-spouse to support their lifestyle is challenging, to say the least.

Chances are, when you got married, you and your husband were both equally excited to start your new life together. Unfortunately, when it comes to ending a marriage, the situation isn’t always so balanced.

Many women call us and say, "I want a divorce but my husband doesn’t. What can I do? Can you tell me how to divorce my husband?"

If your husband doesn't want to divorce, it can be incredibly frustrating for a wife.

But let's get one thing straight right off the top...

If a woman wants a divorce, both spouses are getting a divorce.

Wives don't need their husbands' permission to divorce them. But how you proceed – and how difficult you make it on yourself and your children, is up to both of you.

You see, the way your divorce kicks-off will set the tone for the rest of how the divorce process unfolds as well as the future of your relationship as co-parents.

The first part of this post was written by guest contributor and parenting coach, Dana Hirt, who consciously set out to protect her three young children from the negative effects of divorce and in doing so, had a "good" divorce which paved the way to her own future happiness and the well-being of her entire family.

Dana shares her own personal divorce story and offers some tips for how you, too, can plan a good divorce.

The second part of this post was written by guest contributor and divorce coach, Tara Eisenhard, who believes that families should evolve, not dissolve, through the process of divorce.

Tara shares what a good divorce is and offers advice for how you can have a positive divorce of your own.