If you want to end your marriage peacefully in NY, divorce mediation is your best option.
And we're not just saying that because we're New York divorce mediators!
In addition to achieving an outcome that is peaceful, fair, cost-effective and child-focused, mediation can also help you resolve all of your necessary divorce-related issues out of court.
So whether you live in New York City, Long Island, Westchester, Rochester, Albany, Syracuse or anywhere else in the state of New York for that matter, you can have an alternative to the emotionally devastating and financially ruinous process of an attorney-driven divorce by mediating your divorce or separation with us.
If you live anywhere in the state of New York, you can mediate your no-fault divorce with us using our innovative and convenient Mediation-On-The-Go™ online divorce mediation option.
Or if you prefer, you can mediate face-to-face in any of the following New York City divorce mediation locations by appointment:
Divorce is stressful enough and from the day we started our mediation practice, our philosophy has always been to meet our clients where they are to make their divorce mediation as convenient as possible.
We have access to local, private meeting spaces which allow us to serve a broader community of divorcing couples who want and need our services, instead of only being limited to a single office location.
Oh, and in case you’re wondering, we limit the number of clients we take on at any one time to ensure that all of our clients get the most responsive and best service possible.
Believe it or not, the issues that need to be resolved in a divorce are the same no matter where you live!
You’ve got to develop a plan to raise your kids (parenting), figure out how you’re going to share in the cost to raise them (child support), determine if one of you needs financial support post-divorce (a.k.a. alimony, spousal support, maintenance or spousal maintenance, depending on the state), and divide up your property and debts (equitable distribution or community property).
And while there are subtle nuances in how the issues are resolved from state-to-state, the majority of what needs to be accomplished is the same.
Naturally, we’ve taken the time to research the issues in each of the states we practice in. And we continue to stay abreast of updates and changes to these issues in a variety of ways that range from professional membership organizations, conferences, seminars and state-related publications.
The answer is: Yes!
You can use our online mediation format (we call it Mediation-On-The-Go or virtual mediation) and still get the same great results.
In fact, our clients love the convenience so much that 90% of them choose to mediate with us virtually, even when we have an office near them.
In NY, divorce mediation is primarily conducted outside of a courtroom by using a private divorce mediation service like ours - typically before you file with the courts.
Together we would identify, discuss, negotiate and resolve all of the issues surrounding your divorce privately, confidentially and without the use of attorneys, if you so choose.
We’d draft up all of your agreements, gather the required forms, worksheets and discovery documents, and then send you to the filing phase where you’d complete your divorce through the courts.
And while some states have "court-ordered" mediation programs that help couples resolve all of the issues required for divorce, in New York, mediation offered through the courts is typically limited to issues of custody and decision-making responsibility.
Private mediation with us is not strictly limited to matters of custody and decision-making responsibility.
In New York, issues of where and with which parent the children will live, and who will have decision-making responsibility regarding them is known as "child custody." For couples with minor children, these must be agreed upon and drafted in a parenting plan.
The parenting plan covers all aspects of how you will co-parent your children once you’re divorced including where the children will spend nights, weekends, and holidays, as well as how you and your ex will engage in decision making on matters such as education, religion, and medical issues to name but a few.
Because there is very little guidance on how to create a balanced and effective parenting plan, the help of an experienced and professional mediator is critical in this very gray area.
To learn more about how parenting plans work and why they’re the most important issue you’ll face in your divorce, please read: Divorce with Kids: The Importance of a Good Parenting Plan.
While the federal government requires all states to have some kind of repeatable process by which to determine child support, how child support is determined and the model each state uses varies greatly state-by-state.
NY uses something called the "percentage of obligers income model" whereby a flat percentage of the paying party's gross income is given to the recipient spouse based on the number of children the parties have together.
And while it may seem quite simple to calculate child support in NY, it is far from easy. As defining gross income is quite complex, the guideline has income limitations, and not all expenses related to raising your children are included in it.
That’s why it’s important to work with a mediator with a financial background who is up-to-date on the latest NY child support guidelines. To ensure your children get the financial support they need and don’t become the economic victims of your divorce.
To learn more about how child support works in New York, please read: New York Child Support: More Than Just a Simple Percentage.
In New York, the payment of money from one ex-spouse to another is called spousal maintenance. Some states refer to this as alimony, maintenance or spousal support.
Spousal maintenance in NY is different from child support in that it is to be used by the recipient spouse to assist with their expenses and not the children's. It is also a taxable event.
But like with child support, there is a NY maintenance guideline which became effective on January 25, 2016. The guideline was issued in an attempt to normalize maintenance awards throughout the state.
Now, just because there is a guideline to determine spousal maintenance in NY, it doesn't mean it's useful in all situations. Especially since the cost to live in NYC is significantly higher than upstate, and the spousal maintenance award generated by the guideline may be too low for the recipient spouse to even survive on if they live in Manhattan!
That's why in most cases, our clients choose to negotiate and come to agreement on an amount and duration of spousal maintenance they each find fair without the use of the NY spousal maintenance guideline.
To learn more about how spousal maintenance works in New York, please read: The Challenges of Determining Alimony in NY.
Equitable distribution is the process by which divorcing couples divide their marital assets and liabilities. And is typically the last issue a mediating couple will need to discuss and resolve in their NY divorce.
New York is an equitable distribution state. Meaning couples can come to any agreement they find “fair and equitable” when it comes to dividing their marital assets and liabilities. New York is not a community property state where assets and liabilities would be split 50-50.
So how do you determine what's fair when there's little in the way of formulas or rules to guide you?
A good start is to work with an experienced mediator with a financial background as this part of the divorce process can not only prove difficult, but costly, as there are a significant number of mistakes that can be made during this part of the process.
Determining what marital property is, what’s the difference between marital and pre-marital property, and what factors are taken into account when discussing equitable distribution all factor into the negotiations.
To learn more about how equitable distribution works in NY, please read: Equitable Distribution: Who Gets What in a Divorce in NY?
Whether you work inside the home or outside of it, have minor children, grown children or are child-free, have been married a short time or have been together for many years, mediation is the smartest way to divorce in NY.
To get started, take the next step and book an initial meeting for you and your spouse.
Or if you’re early in the process, learn how you benefit by mediating your NY divorce.