Divorce Coach Cheryl Dillon

Equitable Mediation Co-Founder

Divorce Coach Cheryl Dillon, CPC, ELI-MP


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Divorce Coach Cheryl Dillon earned a Bachelor’s degree in Psychology from the University of Connecticut and is a Certified Life Coach. She completed formal training at The Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC) – an internationally recognized leader in the field of coaching education.

Cheryl has helped countless men and women survive and thrive before, during and after divorce.

Through her 1-on-1 private coaching program, speaking engagements, educational eBooks and articles published in the Huffington Post, Midlife Boulevard, Divorce HQ and on Equitable Mediation’s blog, Cheryl is more than a sympathetic ear, she’s a divorce expert.

Cheryl, Here's some reverse-coaching for you - not that you need it :)

You have made a huge difference in my life and I'm very grateful. How are you so smart that you understand me better than I do? You have been amazingly perceptive and sensitive with me. Thank you. I needed your help so much, and you delivered.

Every day I reflect about my goals and I ask myself if my current activity is in line with those goals. If not, I make adjustments. Incidentally this has also helped me with weight loss, which was not a big goal of mine but is a silver lining. Thanks again and keep up with your fabulous work!

- L.S. - Bridgewater, NJ

My Story and Personal Experience with Divorce

Having gone through my own painful divorce in 2002, I know first-hand the turmoil and negative impact divorce has on a person’s health, life and emotional well-being.

And while making the decision to divorce was hard enough, I knew I still had a long road ahead. I had to actually figure out how to get through the process!

Given that my world was already upside down, I didn’t want things to become any more traumatic. And everything I’d heard about involving lawyers in a divorce led me to believe things would go from bad to worse.

Thankfully, a friend told me about divorce mediation.

By using mediation instead of attorneys, I was able to attain the legal and financial guidance needed to complete the divorce process itself.

And my now ex-husband and I saved a lot of time, money and stress and reached an agreement we both found fair.

cheryl_august_2002.jpgDoing my best to put on a brave face at my Grandma's 80th birthday party. This picture was taken just three hours after my now ex and I made the decision to divorce. My family didn't know yet and I didn't want to tell them and ruin Grandma's special day.

Still, experiencing divorce was devastating and profoundly life-changing for me.

I was hurt, angry, frightened of an uncertain future and I felt utterly powerless and alone.

But I knew I didn’t want to stay stuck in the past - I wanted to be happy. So I saw a therapist, read books, meditated, leaned on friends and family and did whatever I could to help myself cope with divorce and move forward. And I made a very conscious choice to learn from this painful experience and use it to improve the quality of my life.

All of those things helped along the way but there was still something missing. So my personal development journey continued until in 2011, I found coaching.

Coaching helped me make real and lasting changes in my life.

I learned how to make better choices. How to turn a problem into an opportunity. I learned that while I can’t control other people or outside events, I can change the way I react to those external circumstances.

I learned how to let go of my anger. And recognized that I am the only one in charge of my own happiness. I then learned how to create the life I wanted.

It was at that moment I realized coaching would have accelerated my own divorce recovery all those years ago.

That’s why I became a divorce coach.

In 2011, I decided to combine my own experience with divorce, my formal training as a life coach and my more than 20 years of professional experience in human relations to add divorce coaching and emotional support to Equitable Mediation’s services.

Divorce coaching is voluntary and available to you and your spouse individually or together throughout the mediation process for no additional fee.

Why did I believe it was critical to offer complimentary divorce coaching to all of our mediation clients?

Because emotions drive divorce.

You might think divorce is all about laws, money and paperwork.

While there’s no doubt that the process itself focuses on the legal, financial and operational aspects of divorce, there’s another aspect equally, if not more important.

And it’s the one that can get people in the most trouble.


Emotions are what determine how long the divorce process will take, what it will cost and how stressful it will be for you and your children.

Emotions drive the decisions you’ll make - critical decisions that will impact you and your children for years to come.

Emotions determine how you’ll fare in your divorce settlement. And even the happiness you will or won’t have in your life after your divorce is over.

That’s why it’s so important to learn how to effectively manage anger, resentment and other toxic emotions during and after the divorce process. Otherwise, you’ll wind up paying a high price for them - now and quite possibly for the rest of your life.

Dealing with divorce emotions is easier with the help of a coach.

My passion is helping those who refuse to let their divorce define them.

Going through a divorce is one of the most emotionally stressful situations you can ever face.

But what I also want you to know is that how you move through - and eventually beyond your divorce is your choice.

And just because your marriage is ending doesn’t mean your life has to.

You deserve to be happy!

Cheryl has a real passion for helping men and women impacted by divorce. Her intuitive questions, active listening skills and ability to connect with people enable her clients to effectively cope with this painful life event and create action plans to move forward into a brighter future.

- F.K., Elmwood Park, NJ

So don't let your divorce define you.

And be smart. Don’t hire lawyers and use the divorce process to retaliate against your spouse. It will only hurt both of you and your children – emotionally and financially.

Instead, let Joe and I help you peacefully end your marriage by supporting you through all aspects of your divorce: legal, financial, operational and emotional.

All without involving lawyers.

And without destroying your health, life and emotional well-being.

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