As a mom or dad preparing to start a divorce in California, your children are most likely your number one concern. And they should be. You love your kids and want the world for them. So now that you’re getting a divorce, how do you make sure they get the financial support they need in order to live healthy and happy lives?

That’s where child support comes in.

And there’s a lot more to California child support than you might think.

Child support in California: What is the purpose?

Simply stated, the purpose of child support is to ensure that the financial needs of a divorcing couple’s children are being met by both spouses.

Child support is one of four topics that are discussed and agreed upon in divorce mediation in California, along with:

But if you’re wondering how child support works in California, it’s important to recognize that this topic is about more than just money.

Many parents think the purpose of child support in California is to make sure they have enough money after they’re divorced to pay for the items their kids need. But that’s only partially correct.

Divorce is hard on children. And the stress can really take a toll on them. Soon you will no longer be husband and wife, but you’ll always be mom and dad.

Child support shows your kids you still love them and care about their well-being.

There are seven guiding principles to the California child support guidelines:

  1. As parents, your number one priority is to support your child; and
  2. Child support is your collective responsibility and based primarily on your incomes and the amount of time each of you spends with your children; and
  3. Your children are entitled to share in the current incomes of both of you, and not simply the parent who has the greater amount of parenting time; and
  4. While child support belongs to the children and is to be used for their expenses, it may improve the standard of living of the parent with which the child spends a majority of their time; and
  5. It’s expensive to live in The Golden State and so the California guideline child support amounts reflect that; and
  6. If you’re the parent with a majority of the parenting time, the assumption is you’re spending a fair amount of your own income on raising your children and need some help from the other parent; and
  7. Child support guidelines in California are intended to aid you and your spouse in coming to an agreement on appropriate support payments for your children without the need to go to court.

There are a few things you need to know about the challenges of determining child support in California:

  • While there are child support guidelines in California, they can be deviated from, they don’t include all the expenses required to raise a child, and they aren’t applicable in all situations.
  • Despite significant increases in mortgage interest rates, housing prices in California continue to remain stubbornly high, making establishing two households post-divorce challenging for all but the most well-off families.
  • With so many California parents working in tech, continuing waves of layoffs in the sector will impact their ability to provide previously agreed upon child support amounts, when their incomes involuntarily change.
  • This topic has less to do with formulas and child support law and more to do with money, negotiation, and doing what’s best for your kids.
  • There is more than meets the eye on the issue of child support in CA and in the majority of cases, this subject is much too complex for you to try to resolve on your own.

That’s why you’ll get the best result by mediating your California divorce with us.

"Most parents think the CA child support guidelines output a specific payment amount and that’s that. But the reality is the guidelines are just a starting point for negotiations. Plus there are a lot of expenses not covered by the basic California child support number.

That's why the best way to come to a fair agreement and ensure your children get the financial support they need is to work with an experienced mediator like me."

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The California child support guidelines are only a starting point for negotiations.

Federal law requires all 50 states to have a mechanized way by which to calculate child support. So every state has a child support guideline and the formulas vary from state to state. Some states use a simple percentage-based formula. You’d simply take a share of the supporting party’s income and pay it to the other party and you’re done.

But not in California.

Determining child support in California is a very complex undertaking.

California uses something called the Income Shares model. The income shares model attempts to take into account a number of factors including:

  • Your net incomes;
  • The age(s) of your child(ren);
  • The number of overnights the children spends with each spouse;
  • Who takes them as a tax deduction;
  • How much each of you voluntarily contributes to your 401(k) or other retirement plans;
  • You and your children’s health insurance costs;
  • The amount of mortgage interest and property taxes you each pay; and
  • Any mandatory retirement contributions; and
  • Any mandatory union dues.

There are also a number of other “add-ons” which may be considered a factor such as:

  • The total cost of child care; and
  • Educational costs for the children; and
  • Any special needs your child may have that require additional funding; and
  • Any visitation-related travel expenses were one of you to live a great distance from the other; and
  • Any out-of-pocket medical expenses such as deductibles, co-pays, or other non-covered expenses.

Starting to see why this is so complicated?

Now assuming you’ve got all of that, and can enter all this data into the California child support calculator, the output may or may not accurately represent what is truly required to raise your kids!

You see in California, just like everywhere else in the United States, the amount outputted by the guideline is an estimation of what it costs to raise your children. And it can be deviated from if in your case, you and your spouse choose to do so.

Plus, many of the so-called “factors” mentioned above are difficult to agree on. For example, according to the list above, the amount of mortgage interest and property taxes you each pay is a factor. So does that mean you might have to decide how to divide your community property (i.e. your assets and liabilities) to understand which one of you might be staying in the house and incurring those mortgage interest and real estate tax expenses before you determine child support?

Didn’t see that coming, did you?

And, what is an appropriate amount to voluntarily contribute to your 401(k) or other retirement vehicles? It’s been my experience since two households are more expensive to run than one and California is a very expensive state to live in, that 401(k) contributions are usually the first things to get cut post-divorce. The money that used to go towards retirement is now needed by divorcing couples to simply get by on a day-to-day basis, even if it means potentially delaying your retirement and reducing your savings.

And don’t forget – this guideline was developed by the State of California. But the State of California doesn’t know the exact amount required to ensure your kids are properly supported so they’ll thrive.

Only you know what it actually costs to raise your kids!

So while you might think you simply run the guideline and use the number calculated, it’s not even close. The reality is, the number isn’t a hard and fast formula, but rather, a suggestion. And it’s just a starting point for negotiation.

From there, it’s up to you and your spouse to negotiate an agreement that’s in the best interests of your children and that you both find fair.

Which is not so easy to do.

Especially if one of you lives in a high cost-of-living area such as Los Angeles, San Francisco, or San Diego!

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What really belongs in the California child support guidelines?

So far, you’ve learned the child support guidelines attempt to provide divorcing parents with an estimate of the minimum payment amount of financial support needed to raise their kids. And then it allocates a portion of that amount to each spouse based on a number of factors.

But even when you run the guideline, there will likely be controversy regarding which expenses should be included and how to handle those that aren’t.

As parents, I’m sure you would agree that you have to provide at least a basic level of support to your children. Food in their bellies, a roof over their heads, and clothes on their backs.

But after that, what’s in and what’s out is often the subject of much debate.

First is the issue with the California child support guideline itself. Previously, we talked about how childcare was one of the factors in the child support guideline. But should it really be included?

Let’s say, for example, you and your spouse have a 4-year-old and a 2-year-old. And both of you are currently working full-time outside the marital home. In this case, yes, including your daycare expenses in your child support award makes sense. Now a few years go by, and your children are now 8 and 6. Jacob, the 8-year-old is playing soccer and you have a friend who brings him back to their house after practice every day so you don’t need to pay for aftercare. And Emily is enrolled in gymnastics which lasts until 5 pm when you get off of work. So again, no need to pay for daycare or aftercare.

But back when you got divorced, your child support award included funds for daycare. So in theory, the child support amount is too high. So now you have to open old wounds and attempt to renegotiate the amount. Ugh!

Then, there’s the matter of the items that were not covered in any California child support guideline calculation.

Such as:

  • Prom dresses and tuxes;
  • Laptops and smartphones;
  • Dance classes;
  • Summer camps;
  • Car insurance;
  • Music lessons;

And the list goes on and on…

We commonly refer to these as “extraordinary” expenses and they are not typically included in the basic child support amount. These items must be discussed and negotiated separately to ensure your children get the financial support they need and deserve. Because let’s face it, the items listed above tend to be among the most expensive of all!

Starting to see why determining CA child support is not as simple as using some free calculator you may have found on the Internet?

There are other issues to be decided regarding child support in California.

In addition to the basic and extraordinary costs associated with raising your children, you and your spouse will also need to discuss and come to an agreement on:

  • Who deducts the children on their taxes;
  • Who will pay for their health insurance;
  • Whether you have enough life insurance to cover the children’s expenses now and also when they go off to college;
  • How college will be paid for;
  • The duration child support in California is paid (because for some children, it may extend beyond age 18)

Making the list of what is not resolved by running the guidelines longer and longer.

The California child support guidelines aren’t clear on how to handle all situations.

Back when I was a kid, it seemed the way my parents got paid was a lot simpler than it is today. Mom was paid hourly, Dad was paid a flat salary, and that was that. They pretty much knew week-to-week and month-to-month how much income they were going to earn and take home.

Today, compensation has gotten far more complex.

Bonuses, stock options, RSU’s, commission, deferred compensation – you name it – can all play a significant role in how someone earns a living. And these compensation vehicles may not be paid out on a regular basis. In some cases, the amount earned using these “exotic” compensation methods may far exceed the amount an employee receives through a basic salary amount. So predicting what their amounts are for the purposes of determining child support can be difficult.

Add to that more and more people are starting their own businesses, and you’ve got some real challenges when it comes to calculating the California child support guidelines.

How much is too much?

Some states limit the amount of income that is used when determining child support. The theory is that at some point, the child support award may be so high because the parent’s salary is so high, that it will far exceed what the child really needs. But not necessarily in California.

Remember back when we said your children were entitled to share in the current incomes of both of you? Technically, that’s the intention behind the guideline.

But at what point does a child support amount become too much?

That is a topic of great debate, one that’s not answered in the child support guidelines and subject to negotiations by you and your spouse.

What about cases where parenting time is equal?

With nearly half of our clients agreeing on a 50-50 time-sharing arrangement, this is a real dilemma as the California guidelines don’t explicitly have a way to handle this.

Remember, child support is typically paid by the parent with the fewer number of overnights with the children. But in this case, you and your spouse agreed to a 50-50 parenting plan giving each of you an equal number of overnights. How then do the child support guidelines work if you’ve got to choose one of you as the primary parent?

The short answer is – they don’t.

In either of the cases I described above, you and your spouse would have no choice but to skip the guidelines and negotiate instead.

Which is not always so easy to do.

And the answer to “when does child support end in California” isn’t as simple as you might think.

The theory in California is that child support ends when a child turns 18 and graduates from high school. So it would seem that child support ends at age 18. Right?

Maybe… But what happens if they commute to college? Don’t go to college? Boomerang back home after college?

The truth is there can be exceptions agreed upon by you and your spouse. As parents, the two of you have quite a bit of latitude to decide what works for your children, in your unique situation and circumstances.

So while child support can end at age 18, more often than not, it doesn’t.

When the law gets involved, it’s a problem.

There’s something you need to understand here: In a litigated divorce, a family court judge determines child support.

Sounds scary, doesn’t it?

Because they’ll dictate a child support order and both spouses might wind up with something they don’t think is fair or that doesn’t appropriately meet the needs of their children.

That’s why it’s better to negotiate this issue out of the courts and that’s exactly what mediation is all about.

In mediation, you get to decide – and come to a child support payment (and agreement) that puts your children first and you both agree is fair, instead of letting your future be decided by a stranger in court.

You will get the best CA child support result by mediating with us.

California child support issues will vary based on your situation and circumstances. And as you’ve learned, there is more than meets the eye on this topic. So don’t risk putting your children’s financial future in jeopardy by trying to resolve child support on your own.

Use divorce mediation and work with us instead!

Using our extensive financial knowledge of the complex matters of child support in California, we’ll help you and your spouse determine a child support amount that accurately reflects your lives as parents and the specialized needs of your children.

One that covers all basic, extraordinary, and future expenses.

  • We’ll talk about who your children are, what they like to do, and what it will take to make sure they’re getting what they need and deserve. Not just what the formula says you have to pay so they can “get by.”
  • Work through specialized cases like child support for when you share in the care of your children equally. We’ll also explore arrangements in which the children spend a majority of their time with one parent as this, too, can have its own special approach.
  • Help you negotiate any issues of disagreement and create an agreement you both find fair and equitable regarding the support of your children.
  • Make sure your agreement minimizes tax issues, avoids penalties, and improves cash flow whenever possible.

Because no two situations or sets of circumstances are alike.

Your children are unique and your child support agreement should reflect that, too.

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Guide to Divorce Mediation in California

Unlike other states which offer court-connected mediation programs to help couples resolve all issues related to their divorce, in California, “full cycle” mediation is only conducted privately. Couples will hire a mediator, typically before they file with the court, to help them negotiate and come to agreement on all issues surrounding their divorce.

In California, the only option to participate in court-ordered mediation is for child custody mediation. So if you and your spouse were to disagree on any financial matters such as child support, spousal support, or community property division, you’d be on your own to resolve the differences between you.

Or if you were unable – which is quite common – you would need to hire a private neutral third party mediator, or family law attorney, to help you reach an agreement. As you can see, there is a big difference in completeness between private mediation and court-connected mediation. Which is why couples who wish to mediate, do so privately.

No. Divorce mediation is not required in California, although it is encouraged. California courts only mandate mediation for child custody disputes.

If you and your spouse wish to mediate all divorce issues comprehensively, you would need to pursue private mediation.

While you certainly have the right to each hire an attorney and litigate your divorce, we’ve found that given the proven effectiveness and efficiency of mediation, many couples are instead choosing to peacefully resolve the issues surrounding their divorce by hiring a private mediator like us.

Since no two mediators are alike, the actual mediation process will vary from mediator-to-mediator. But here’s a high-level overview of what happens throughout the divorce mediation process once you become our client:

To kick things off, your first mediation session will be a one-hour strategy session.

In this session, Joe (our mediator) will help you both prepare for mediation by:

  • Developing a framework for your negotiations;
  • Identifying key areas of concern you each have;
  • Defining your goals for the divorce mediation process;
  • Directing you to begin gathering important financial documents;
  • And instructing you on how to work together to complete our proprietary forms and worksheets.

This part of the mediation process is intended to help you, and Joe to define what a successful mediation will look like and greatly increase the chances you will come to an agreement.

Once you’ve submitted to us the required pre-work and discovery items, the mediation process transitions to negotiations.

Joe will meet with you and your spouse online – using Zoom – and guide you through a series of conversations encompassing the issues that need to be settled for your divorce. Each session lasts approximately 2-hours, and the number and timing of sessions are determined by the two of you and Joe – and depends greatly on the details of your divorce, and the complexity of the issues you face.

If areas of disagreement arise in a mediation session, Joe will use his expertise in a variety of dispute resolution techniques to help you negotiate and reach agreement during the mediation on these topics.

Once agreement is reached for all required issues, Joe will then draft a complex written document called a Memorandum of Understanding (MOU), outlining all decisions made during your negotiations.

Upon completion of mediation, you will be encouraged to have your written agreement reviewed by your own respective lawyer, however it is your decision whether or not to do so.

Once you both agree the MOU looks good, you will then hire a filing professional who will assist with the paperwork preparation process. Your divorce papers may include, but are not limited to, the uncontested divorce filing, the divorce complaint, the marital settlement agreement, and budgets, along with a host of other related California court paperwork. It’s important to note there are attorney and non-attorney filing professionals and it is your choice of which professional to have your divorce filed with the court with.

Upon receipt of the proper documentation and filing fees, your uncontested judgement of divorce will be granted by a judge typically in six to nine months as there is a six-month waiting period in California.

Some people choose to speak with a divorce lawyer throughout the mediation, or after mediation is completed. Especially if they want advice on family law matters as giving advice is not something a mediator is permitted to do – even if they are a lawyer. This is your divorce, so if you’d like to get a lawyer’s perspective on a particular issue(s), we would encourage you do so. However you are not required at any point in your divorce to work with, or speak to, an attorney if you so choose.

No. You are not required to have everything decided before starting mediation. In fact, many divorcing couples specifically wait for the mediator to help them discuss and resolve the issues. This way, they can ensure all issues will be discussed thoroughly – in the proper order and given the time and attention they require.

While we can’t speak for all California mediators, for us the answer is a resounding yes. Given our expertise working with employees or founders of equity backed startups, divorces after a long-term marriage, divorce with a business involved, and those involving high assets, complicated compensation, variable compensation and deferred compensation issues, and gray divorces, most cases we handle have a high degree of complexity.

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It depends. While mediation allows divorcing couples to negotiate and come to an agreement they both find fair, communication difficulties which are typical of a high-conflict divorce, often prevent them from working directly with each other – which is a key requirement in mediation. If they’re willing to work with our divorce coach Cheryl and put their emotions aside, then yes, they can mediate. Otherwise divorce mediation is not recommended.

While both the divorce mediation and collaborative divorce process choose to focus on keeping a couple out of court, there are a significant number of ways in which they are different. That’s why we wrote this article about mediation vs the collaborative process to help you understand the differences between the two divorce options, and the advantages we believe https://www.equitablemediation.commediation provides.

Mediators come from a variety of different backgrounds. Some are attorneys, some are mental health professionals. While others, like Joe, have a financial background. Regardless of their backgrounds, an experienced mediator should be able to address all issues a couple faces. However in our opinion, since 3 of the 4 issues in a divorce are financial in nature, we believe it’s best to choose a mediator with a strong financial acumen.

No. A mediator cannot give you legal advice – even if they are an attorney-mediator. In their role as a neutral third party, they must not provide legal advice. If you do want or need advice a mediator may recommend you speak to a lawyer but the decision to do so is entirely up to you.

Read our helpful article to learn more about the differences between mediators and lawyers for divorce.

When exploring divorce mediation costs, many people initially focus on hourly rates or flat fees. However, the total expense involves much more than the mediator’s upfront charges.

The Experience of Your Mediator

An experienced mediator does more than simply facilitate current discussions. They strategically help you and your spouse address both present and potential future issues, creating a comprehensive agreement that can prevent costly complications down the line.

Consider this: resolving a missed issue or modifying a divorce decree after the fact can cost between $10,000 and $20,000. Ex-spouses are typically less cooperative after divorce, making post-divorce negotiations significantly more challenging and expensive. A thorough agreement developed during mediation is an investment in cost avoidance.

Services Included in Mediation

Not all mediation services are created equal. Some mediators offer comprehensive support that can ultimately save you money, including:

  • Emotional support and divorce coaching
  • Drafting detailed, easily understood written agreements
  • Comprehensive issue resolution that minimizes the need for future legal interventions
  • Flexibility regarding attorney involvement

While an inexperienced mediator might offer a lower initial fee, the long-term costs can be substantial. You might end up spending an additional $3,500 to $5,000 having agreements re-drafted by attorneys, or $10,000 to $20,000 resolving unforeseen issues.

Understanding the Total Cost

Divorce mediation in California typically ranges from $6,000 to $10,000. This includes the mediator’s fee, filing professional’s fee, and court fees. However, the true cost depends on multiple factors: the comprehensiveness of services, the mediator’s experience, and the potential for future legal interventions. When choosing a mediator, consider the value of a thorough, forward-thinking approach that can save you time, money, and stress in the long run.

To learn more, read: The Real Truth Behind Divorce Mediation Costs

Absolutely. The average cost of mediation is between $6,000 and $10,000. Whereas with divorce litigation, according to an article published in the Motley Fool, will cost couples on average $46,600 – but with one important caveat. If the issues to be litigated include alimony or child support, that amount can skyrocket. With average costs of a litigated divorce exceeding $100,000.

While the length of the process varies by couple and the complexities of their case and interpersonal dynamics, generally speaking, mediation with us can be completed in 8-12 weeks. That includes time for you to complete financial discovery, meet with the mediator for typically 2 to 4 mediation sessions, give the mediator time to draft your written agreement (MOU), and for you to have time to review it and provide feedback. Once mediation is completed, you will then enter the filing phase to complete your divorce with the California courts. It is here where the process slows down as there is a 6-month waiting period in California, so your divorce will not be final until that waiting period has passed, and your divorce has been ordered by the courts.

The mediation process is known to be a viable option for you and your spouse if:

  • There is a degree of mutual respect between you and your spouse and you are both willing to actively participate – this is because mediation is a voluntary process;
  • You and your spouse are both willing to engage in an honest, transparent and “good faith” negotiation including full financial disclosure;
  • You want an experienced professional mediator to help you identify, discuss and negotiate the required issues, but you want to make your own decisions, retain full control over your divorce agreement, and avoid litigation and/or attorney involvement.

In order for it to work, mediation depends on three things. The first is full disclosure. Because mediation is what’s known as a “good faith negotiation” it requires that both spouses provide any and all financial documentation asked for by the mediator, or the other spouse, and truthfully answer any questions asked of them.

Second is mental acuity. Because you and your spouse will be making your own decisions, you must both be of “sound mind” and be able to understand complex concepts.

Finally, there can be no restraining order in effect. Because a mediator will typically speak with both spouses simultaneously, they must both be able to interact with each, and there can be no legal order preventing them from doing so. If you and your spouse do not meet these requirements, mediation will not work for your divorce case.

No. There is no requirement that the parties go to family court in California order to get a divorce provided the proper information is exchanged between the parties, all issues and disputes are resolved and agreed upon, and the proper paperwork such as your Marital Settlement Agreement and divorce petition is drafted and filed with family court services.

You must be a resident of the state for six (6) months, and the county you wish to file in for three (3). If you’ve recently moved, and don’t yet meet the California residency requirements, you can always begin the mediation process, work through the issues with the guidance of your mediator, and then file your divorce or legal separation. In our experience, parties can come to resolution on all issues, and have a settlement agreement in hand, within four to six months. Thus allowing time to pass, and moving the parties closer to meeting the residency requirements.

While the terms can sometimes be used interchangeably, “family law mediation” is the broader of the two. For example, family law mediation may be used to help non-married California parents make decisions on, and resolve issues of child custody. In this case, since they were never married, there would be no “divorce” in the mediation process. While any topic involving the family may be brought to resolution using a mediator, could fall under its umbrella, divorce mediation refers to a specific alternative dispute resolution process focused on ending the parties’ marriage.

If you and your spouse are not permitted to be in the same room with each other, but are permitted telephone contact with each other, then our online mediation process may be an option if there is domestic violence or a power imbalance in your relationship.

There’s no need to travel to an office for our sessions. We’ve been conducting divorce mediation services remotely since 2011, allowing us to serve couples throughout California from the comfort of their own homes or offices.

We’ve helped client couples in cities such as: Los Angeles, San Diego, San Jose, San Francisco, Fresno, Sacramento, Long Beach, Oakland, Bakersfield, Anaheim, Santa Ana, Riverside, Stockton, Irvine, Chula Vista, Fremont, San Bernardino, Modesto, Moreno Valley, Fontana, Santa Clarita, Oxnard, Huntington Beach, Glendale, Ontario, Rancho Cucamonga, Oceanside, Santa Rosa, Garden Grove, Elk Grove, Corona, Hayward, Lancaster, Palmdale, Salinas, Sunnyvale, Pomona, Escondido, Torrance, Roseville, Pasadena, Orange, Fullerton, Visalia, Santa Clara, Concord, Thousand Oaks, Simi Valley, Victorville, and Vallejo.

Our virtual approach provides maximum convenience while ensuring the same professional, confidential service you would receive in person.

About the Authors – Divorce Mediators You Can Trust

Equitable Mediation Services is a trusted and nationally recognized provider of divorce mediation, serving couples exclusively in California, New Jersey, Washington, New York, Illinois, and Pennsylvania. Founded in 2008, this husband-and-wife team has successfully guided more than 1,000 couples through the complex divorce process, helping them reach amicable, fair, and thorough agreements that balance each of their interests and prioritizes their children’s well-being. All without involving attorneys if they so choose.

At the heart of Equitable Mediation are Joe Dillon, MBA, and Cheryl Dillon, CPC—two compassionate, experienced professionals committed to helping couples resolve divorce’s financial, emotional, and practical issues peacefully and with dignity.

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Joe Dillon, MBA – Divorce Mediator & Negotiation Expert

As a seasoned Divorce Mediator with an MBA in Finance, Joe Dillon specializes in helping clients navigate complex parental and financial issues, including:

  • Physical and legal custody
  • Spousal support (alimony) and child support
  • Equitable distribution and community property division
  • Business ownership
  • Retirement accounts, stock options, and RSUs

Joe’s unique blend of financial acumen, mediation expertise, and personal insight enables him to skillfully guide couples through complex divorce negotiations, reaching fair agreements that safeguard the family’s emotional and financial well-being.

He brings clarity and structure to even the most challenging negotiations, ensuring both parties feel heard, supported, and in control of their outcome. This approach has earned him a reputation as one of the most trusted names in alternative dispute resolution.

Photo of Cheryl Dillon standing with the Equitable Mediation team in a bright conference room, all smiling and ready to guide clients through an amicable divorce process. For compassionate, expert support from Cheryl Dillon and our team, call Equitable Mediation at (877) 732-6682 today.

Cheryl Dillon, CPC – Certified Divorce Coach & Life Transitions Expert

Cheryl Dillon is a Certified Professional Coach (CPC) and the Divorce Coach at Equitable Mediation. She earned a bachelor’s degree in psychology and completed formal training at The Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC) – an internationally recognized leader in the field of coaching education.

Her unique blend of emotional intelligence, coaching expertise, and personal insight enables her to guide individuals through divorce’s emotional complexities compassionately.

Cheryl’s approach fosters improved communication, reduced conflict, and better decision-making, equipping clients to manage divorce’s challenges effectively. Because emotions have a profound impact on shaping the divorce process, its outcomes, and future well-being of all involved.

What We Offer: Flat-Fee, Full-Service Divorce Mediation

Equitable Mediation provides:

  • Full-service divorce mediation with real financial expertise
  • Convenient, online sessions via Zoom
  • Unlimited sessions for one customized flat fee (no hourly billing surprises)
  • Child custody and parenting plan negotiation
  • Spousal support and asset division mediation
  • Divorce coaching and emotional support
  • Free and paid educational courses on the divorce process

Whether clients are facing financial complexities, looking to safeguard their children’s futures, or trying to protect everything they’ve worked hard to build, Equitable Mediation has the expertise to guide them towards the outcomes that matter most to them and their families.

Why Couples Choose Equitable Mediation

  • 98% case resolution rate
  • Trusted by over 1,000 families since 2008
  • Subject-matter experts in the states in which they practice
  • Known for confidential, respectful, and cost-effective processes
  • Recommendations by therapists, financial planners, and former clients

Equitable Mediation Services operates in:

  • California: San Francisco, San Diego, Los Angeles
  • New Jersey: Bridgewater, Morristown, Short Hills
  • Washington: Seattle, Bellevue, Kirkland
  • New York: NYC, Long Island
  • Illinois: Chicago, North Shore
  • Pennsylvania: Philadelphia, Bucks County, Montgomery County, Pittsburgh, Allegheny County

Schedule a Free Info Call to learn if you’re a good candidate for divorce mediation with Joe and Cheryl.

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