I’ve worked with hundreds of divorcing couples on post-divorce budgeting, and I can tell you that this is where the rubber meets the road. You can negotiate the best spousal support agreement in the world, but if you don’t understand how to budget and manage your money after divorce, you’re going to struggle. Especially in a high-cost-of-living state like California! Let me walk you through how to create a realistic budget that allows you to move forward successfully.

The harsh math of divorce

Let’s start with the reality I’ve mentioned throughout these articles: one household is becoming two households. During your marriage, you shared housing costs, utilities, insurance, streaming services, and countless other expenses. After a divorce, you each need your own place with separate expenses for everything.

The exact total household income that supported one family now has to stretch to support two separate households. Even with spousal support helping to balance the incomes, there’s less money available per person than when you were sharing everything. Most divorcing couples experience a decrease in their standard of living, at least initially. Understanding and accepting this reality is the first step toward successful budgeting.

This doesn’t mean you’ll be destitute. It means you need to be realistic about what your post-divorce lifestyle can look like and plan accordingly.

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Start with an honest assessment of your current spending

Before you can create a post-divorce budget, you need to understand your marital spending patterns. Pull your bank statements, credit card statements, and any other financial records for the past six to twelve months. Look at where the money actually went, not where you think it went or where it should have gone.

In mediation, I help couples work through this analysis together. We categorize expenses into major buckets like housing, transportation, food, insurance, healthcare, childcare, entertainment, and discretionary spending. This gives us a baseline understanding of your marital standard of living—what you actually spent to maintain your lifestyle during the marriage.

This historical data is important because it grounds your post-divorce budget in reality. Maybe you think you can live on $4,000 per month, but when we look at actual spending, your share of marital expenses was closer to $6,000. That gap between perception and reality needs to be addressed.

Building your post-divorce budget: the receiving spouse

If you’ll be receiving spousal support, your post-divorce budget needs to account for all your income sources – your own earnings, the spousal support you’ll receive, any child support if applicable, and any other income. Then list all your expenses.

Start with your fixed expenses—the ones that don’t change month to month. Your rent or mortgage, car payment, insurance premiums, HOA fees if applicable, loan payments, and any other recurring obligations. These are your non-negotiables that must be paid.

Next, look at your variable but necessary expenses. Utilities, groceries, gas, phone, internet, and healthcare costs that aren’t covered by insurance. These will fluctuate somewhat, but are essential expenses.

Then comes the more challenging part – discretionary spending. Entertainment, dining out, travel, hobbies, clothing beyond basics, and all the other things that make life enjoyable but aren’t strictly necessary. This is where you’ll likely need to make adjustments to your marital spending.

Here’s the critical question for receiving spouses: can you cover all your reasonable expenses with the support you’ll receive plus your own income? If the answer is no, you need to either increase your income, decrease your expenses, or negotiate different spousal support terms. Hoping it will somehow work out is not a plan.

Building your post-divorce budget: the paying spouse

If you’ll be paying spousal support, your budgeting starts with accepting that a significant portion of your income is going to your ex-spouse. That money isn’t available for your expenses. Your budget needs to work with what remains after you’ve paid support and any child support obligations.

Start by calculating your net income after all taxes and mandatory deductions. Then subtract your support obligations—both spousal and child support, if applicable. What’s left is what you have to live on.

Now go through the same expense analysis – fixed costs, variable necessities, and discretionary spending. Can you cover your reasonable expenses with what remains? If not, where can you cut? What lifestyle adjustments do you need to make?

Many paying spouses discover they need to downsize their lifestyle significantly. Maybe you can’t afford to keep the lovely apartment and need to find something more modest. Maybe you can’t afford your current car payment and need to trade down. Maybe dining out several times a week isn’t realistic anymore. These realizations are harsh but necessary.

Distinguishing needs from wants

This is where my financial background really helps couples in mediation. We need to distinguish between needs and wants, between essential expenses and discretionary spending. You need housing, but do you need a three-bedroom apartment or will a two-bedroom work? You need transportation, but do you need a new car with a $900 payment, or can you drive a reliable used car?

California has a high cost of living, which makes this analysis challenging. Housing alone can consume a considerable percentage of your budget. But even in California, there are choices to be made about where you live, what amenities you require, and how you allocate your limited resources.

Needs include safe housing in a reasonable area, reliable transportation, adequate food, necessary healthcare, appropriate clothing, and essential utilities. Wants include upgrades, luxuries, entertainment, travel, and lifestyle enhancements beyond necessities.

In mediation, we work through these categories honestly. I’m not here to judge your spending or tell you what you should value. But I do help you see clearly where your money is going and whether your proposed budget is realistic given your income and support obligations.

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Planning for when support ends

If you’re receiving spousal support, you need to plan for the day when those payments stop. Support doesn’t last forever—we’ve discussed the duration extensively. What will your financial situation look like when support ends? Can you cover your expenses with your own income at that point?

This is why the path to self-sufficiency is so essential. Your post-divorce budget should include investments in yourself—education, training, and career development—that will increase your earning capacity over time. You shouldn’t be planning to live on support indefinitely. You should be planning to transition to self-sufficiency by the time support ends.

Build this into your budget. Maybe that means setting aside time and money for coursework or certification programs. Maybe it means gradually increasing your work hours as your children get older. Maybe it means strategic career moves that position you for higher income. Whatever your path to self-sufficiency, it should be reflected in your financial planning.

The emotional side of budgeting after divorce

Let’s acknowledge that adjusting to a post-divorce budget isn’t just a math problem—it’s an emotional challenge. You may be grieving the lifestyle you’re losing. You may be angry about the financial impact of divorce. You may feel anxious about making ends meet.

These feelings are valid, but they can’t drive your financial decisions. You need to separate the emotional processing of divorce from the practical reality of budgeting. Yes, it’s not fair that you have to downsize. Yes, it’s frustrating that your income doesn’t go as far as you’d like. But your budget needs to be based on reality, not wishful thinking or anger.

In mediation, I help couples work through the emotional aspects of financial adjustment while keeping the focus on practical planning. We acknowledge the difficulty while still doing the work necessary to create workable budgets.

Why having a mediator with financial expertise matters

This is where my MBA in Finance and training from the Institute for Divorce Financial Analysis really provide value. Budgeting after divorce isn’t just about listing income and expenses – it’s about financial planning, cash flow analysis, understanding tax implications, and strategic thinking about your financial future.

I can help you analyze whether your proposed budget is realistic. I can identify areas where you might be under-budgeting for actual costs. I can help you think through timing and cash flow issues. I can suggest strategies for building toward self-sufficiency or managing support obligations efficiently.

Most importantly, I can help both spouses understand each other’s post-divorce financial reality. When the paying spouse sees the supported spouse’s detailed budget and understands their actual needs, it creates empathy. When the receiving spouse sees what the paying spouse has left to live on after support, it creates perspective. This mutual understanding leads to fairer agreements.

Your path forward financially

Budgeting for life after divorce when spousal support is involved requires honest assessment, realistic planning, and a willingness to adjust your expectations. Both paying and receiving spouses face financial challenges. Both need to plan carefully and manage money wisely.

In mediation, we work through this budgeting process together. We look at the real numbers. We discuss what’s realistic and what’s not. We create a support arrangement that fits within workable budgets for both spouses. And we help you think through not just the immediate post-divorce period but the longer-term path toward financial stability.

Your post-divorce budget won’t look like your married budget. But with careful planning and realistic expectations, it can support a good life—different from before, but still good. That’s what smart budgeting after divorce makes possible.

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“You may have researched how alimony works in your state. But in my experience, regardless of whether a state offers guidance on how to resolve alimony, often, couples negotiate their own agreement tailored to their unique situation and circumstances.

So you have a lot of flexibility and can maintain a lot of control if you negotiate the terms of alimony out of court with the help of a skilled professional using an alternative dispute resolution process like divorce mediation or a collaborative divorce .

You and your soon-to-be ex-spouse will more likely come to an alimony arrangement that's acceptable to both of you."

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FAQs About Alimony in California

Alimony, legally referred to as spousal support or maintenance in California, is a court-ordered financial payment that one spouse provides to the other during separation, divorce proceedings, or after the marriage has been dissolved. The fundamental purpose of these support payments is to assist the lower-earning spouse in maintaining a reasonable standard of living and achieving financial independence following the end of the marital relationship. California Family Code sections 4320 through 4360 govern how spousal maintenance operates within the state’s family law system. The process works in two distinct phases: temporary support during divorce proceedings (sometimes called pendente lite support) and long-term or permanent support established in the final divorce judgment. Courts evaluate numerous factors when making support determinations, including each party’s earning capacity, the marital standard of living, the duration of the marriage, and the financial needs and abilities of both spouses. Unlike child support, which follows specific calculation guidelines, spousal maintenance awards involve considerable judicial discretion based on the unique circumstances of each divorcing couple.

The duration of spousal support payments in California primarily depends on the length of the marriage and the type of support ordered. For marriages lasting fewer than ten years (considered short-term marriages), California courts commonly establish support duration at approximately half the length of the marriage. For example, if a couple was married for six years, the supported spouse might receive maintenance for roughly three years, although this is a general guideline rather than a strict rule. Marriages of ten years or longer are classified as long-duration marriages under California Family Code Section 4336, and these cases receive different treatment. For long-duration marriages, judges retain jurisdiction indefinitely and cannot set a definite termination date at the time of judgment, meaning support could potentially continue for many years depending on circumstances. However, this does not guarantee lifetime alimony; instead, it means the court can revisit and modify the support arrangement as long as the order remains active. Support automatically terminates upon certain events, including the death of either party, the remarriage of the supported spouse, or when the court determines the supported spouse no longer needs assistance or has become self-supporting. The reasonable period for support is determined by how long it would take the supported spouse to obtain the education, training, or work experience necessary to become financially independent.

California judges must evaluate an extensive list of statutory factors outlined in Family Code Section 4320 when determining both the amount and duration of long-term spousal support. These mandatory considerations include the marketable skills and earning capacity of each spouse, along with the job market for those particular skills and any time or expenses required for the supported spouse to acquire education or training for employment. Courts examine the extent to which the supported spouse’s earning capacity was impaired by periods of unemployment during the marriage to permit devotion to domestic duties, recognizing career sacrifices made for the family’s benefit. The standard of living established during the marriage carries significant weight, as courts attempt to allow both parties to maintain a lifestyle reasonably comparable to what they enjoyed while married. Each party’s assets, debts, income from all sources, and overall financial needs are analyzed in detail. The court also considers the duration of the marriage, recognizing that longer marriages typically warrant longer support obligations. The age and health of both spouses factor into determinations, as physical or mental conditions may affect earning ability and financial needs. The ability of the supporting spouse to pay support while meeting their own reasonable needs is balanced against the needs of the spouse seeking support. Additional factors include documented evidence of domestic violence, the balance of hardships to each party, and the goal that the supported spouse become self-supporting within a reasonable period. Tax consequences, though changed by recent federal law, remain relevant for California state tax purposes. Finally, judges may consider any other factors deemed just and equitable in the particular circumstances of the case.

California employs different approaches for temporary versus permanent spousal support calculations. For temporary support during divorce proceedings, most counties use a computer-based guideline formula, often called the “DissoMaster” or “XSpouse” calculator, which generates a support amount based primarily on the parties’ incomes and certain deductions. A common rough estimate suggests taking 35 to 45 percent of the higher earner’s income and subtracting 40 to 50 percent of the lower earner’s income, though actual calculations involve more complexity. This computerized approach provides consistency and predictability during the interim period while the divorce is pending. However, for long-term or permanent spousal support established in the final divorce judgment, California law explicitly prohibits using a formula. Instead, it requires judges to apply the comprehensive Family Code Section 4320 factors discussed above. Courts must consider each statutory factor and make specific findings about the circumstances of the marriage, earning capacities, needs, standard of living, and other relevant considerations. This means there is no mathematical formula or calculator that can definitively determine permanent support amounts; instead, each case requires individualized analysis of the unique facts and circumstances. The judge exercises considerable discretion in weighing these factors and determining what constitutes a fair and reasonable support arrangement. Spouses can negotiate and agree upon any support amount and duration they find mutually acceptable. Still, if they cannot reach an agreement, the judge must use the multi-factor analysis rather than any predetermined calculation to establish the support order.

The widely misunderstood “ten-year rule” refers to how California courts treat marriages of long duration, defined explicitly in California Family Code Section 4336 as marriages lasting ten years or more from the date of marriage to the date of separation. The misconception is that crossing the ten-year threshold automatically guarantees lifetime alimony payments, but this is legally incorrect. What actually happens for marriages of long duration is that the court retains jurisdiction to review and modify spousal support orders indefinitely, meaning there is no automatic cutoff date for the court’s authority to revisit support. For marriages under ten years, courts commonly set support duration at approximately half the marriage length. Once that period expires, the court generally loses jurisdiction unless the order explicitly reserves jurisdiction. In contrast, for long-duration marriages, even though the judge cannot set a definite termination date at the time of judgment, they can establish a review date when the supported spouse must demonstrate continued need for support or face termination. California public policy has evolved away from the outdated concept of permanent lifetime support, as recognized by case law emphasizing that spousal support should last only as long as reasonably necessary for the supported spouse to become self-supporting. The ten-year milestone is significant because it affects the court’s ongoing jurisdiction over support matters, allowing for continued review and modification based on changing circumstances. Still, it does not create an entitlement to indefinite support regardless of circumstances. Factors such as retirement, remarriage, cohabitation, changes in income, or the supported spouse achieving self-sufficiency can all lead to modification or termination even in long-duration marriages.

Remarriage and cohabitation have distinctly different legal effects on spousal support obligations in California. Under California Family Code Section 4337, if the spouse receiving support remarries, spousal support automatically terminates without requiring a court hearing or further legal proceedings. This automatic termination reflects the legal presumption that the new spouse assumes financial responsibility for supporting the remarried party. The supported spouse has a legal obligation to notify the paying spouse about the remarriage; failure to do so can result in a court order requiring repayment of support improperly received after remarriage. This automatic termination rule applies unless the parties’ divorce settlement agreement states explicitly otherwise—spouses can negotiate arrangements where support continues despite remarriage, though this is uncommon. Past-due support obligations and any vested lump-sum payments remain enforceable despite remarriage. Cohabitation—living with a new romantic partner without marriage—does not automatically terminate support but can provide grounds for modification or termination. Under California Family Code Section 4323, cohabitation with a non-marital partner may be considered a changed circumstance that justifies reducing or ending support payments. The paying spouse must file a motion with the court requesting modification and demonstrate that the supported spouse is cohabitating with a partner in a relationship resembling marriage. The court examines whether cohabitation has reduced the supported spouse’s financial needs because they share living expenses and receive support from their new partner. Simply having a roommate does not necessarily qualify, as courts look for evidence of a romantic, committed relationship involving mutual financial support and sharing of resources. The supported spouse can rebut the presumption by proving they still require support despite the living arrangement. The burden falls on the paying spouse to prove that circumstances have changed sufficiently to warrant modification.

California law permits both modification and termination of spousal support orders when circumstances significantly change. However, the process and requirements differ based on the type of support and the duration of marriage. Either spouse can request modification by filing a Request for Order with the family court that issued the original support judgment. The moving party must demonstrate a “material change of circumstances” since the original support order—substantial changes in either party’s financial situation that make the current support amount unfair or inappropriate. Examples of qualifying changes include the paying spouse experiencing involuntary job loss, significant income reduction, disability, or legitimate retirement (typically around age 65), which may justify decreasing support. Conversely, substantial income increases by either party might warrant modification—the paying spouse’s higher earnings could support increased payments, while the supported spouse’s improved income might justify reduction or termination. Health issues, severe illness, or disability affecting either party’s earning capacity or expenses can trigger modifications. The supported spouse’s failure to make reasonable efforts toward self-sufficiency despite court warnings (known as a Gavron warning under Family Code Section 4320) may lead to reduced support or termination. Courts can assign “imputed income” to a supported spouse who voluntarily remains unemployed or underemployed despite having marketable skills and available employment opportunities. Cohabitation with a new partner, as discussed above, can justify modification even without remarriage. For marriages under ten years, once the support order expires, courts generally lose jurisdiction to modify unless jurisdiction was specifically reserved. For marriages of extended duration (ten years or more), courts retain indefinite authority to review and modify support. Parties can also negotiate modification agreements outside of court, but court approval is required to make the changes legally enforceable. Temporary support orders during divorce proceedings can be modified more easily than final support orders. It’s important to note that modifications typically take effect only from the date of filing the request, not retroactively, so timing matters significantly.

The tax treatment of spousal support in California is undergoing a significant change that depends on when your divorce agreement is finalized. California recently enacted Senate Bill 711, which will conform California’s tax treatment of spousal support to federal law starting January 1, 2026.

For divorce agreements or court orders executed on or after January 1, 2019 but before January 1, 2026, there is a split between federal and state tax treatment. Federal law eliminated the tax deduction for alimony payments made by the paying spouse, and recipients no longer report spousal support as taxable income on federal returns. However, California did not conform to these federal changes during this period. For California state income tax purposes, spousal support remained tax-deductible for the paying spouse on their California state return, and the receiving spouse had to report support payments as taxable income on their California state tax return. This created a disconnect between federal and state tax treatment, requiring taxpayers to make adjustments on Schedule CA when filing California returns to account for the different treatment of alimony.

Starting January 1, 2026, Senate Bill 711 changes this split treatment for new agreements. For any spousal support agreement entered into after December 31, 2025, spousal support will be neither deductible for the paying spouse nor taxable income for the receiving spouse at both the federal and California state level. This creates complete tax neutrality and eliminates the confusing split treatment that existed from 2019 through 2025. The new tax treatment also applies to modifications of existing agreements made after December 31, 2025, but only if the modification expressly provides that Senate Bill 711 applies. If you modify an existing pre-2026 agreement without specifically invoking SB 711, the old split tax treatment should continue to apply to that agreement.

For divorce or separation agreements executed on or before December 31, 2018, the original tax rules continue to apply at both federal and state levels. Payments remain deductible for the payor and taxable income for the recipient on both federal and California returns, and this federal AGI (Adjusted Gross Income) figure carries over to the California return without adjustment.

Qualification for spousal support in California is not automatic and depends on demonstrating financial need and disparity between the spouses’ circumstances. Generally, the spouse with significantly lower income or earning capacity may qualify for support if they can establish that they need financial assistance to maintain a reasonable standard of living while working toward self-sufficiency. Key qualifying factors include a demonstrable income disparity between spouses, where one spouse lacks sufficient property or income to maintain reasonable needs and the marital standard of living. The supported spouse must demonstrate a need for time to acquire education, training, or work experience that will make them employable and self-supporting, especially if they have sacrificed career opportunities during the marriage to fulfill domestic duties or support their partner’s career advancement. Marriages where one spouse is the primary wage earner and the other handles domestic responsibilities or raises children often result in support awards. Courts examine whether the requesting spouse’s earning capacity was diminished during the marriage due to an extended absence from the workforce. Several circumstances can disqualify someone from receiving spousal support or result in denial or termination. If the spouse requesting support has a comparable or higher income, substantial assets, or significant financial resources making support unnecessary, they likely won’t qualify. A valid prenuptial or postnuptial agreement waiving spousal support rights is generally enforceable, disqualifying the spouse from seeking court-ordered support unless the contract was executed under duress, fraud, or other circumstances making it unconscionable. Short-term marriages (especially those under three years) may not warrant support, or support duration may be very limited. Evidence that the supported spouse is not making reasonable good-faith efforts toward self-sufficiency despite court orders can lead to termination, especially with a Gavron warning in effect. Remarriage automatically disqualifies the former spouse from continued support. A supported spouse who has achieved self-sufficiency and no longer requires assistance will have support terminated. Receipt of substantial inheritance, lottery winnings, or other financial windfalls may eliminate the need for support. California law also provides that a spouse convicted of domestic violence against their partner may receive reduced support or be ordered to pay additional support beyond what would usually be awarded. Voluntary unemployment or underemployment when capable of working can result in imputed income, reducing or eliminating support eligibility.

California recognizes several distinct types of spousal support, each serving different purposes during and after the divorce process. Temporary spousal support, also known as pendente lite support (Latin for “pending litigation”), is awarded. At the same time, the divorce case is actively ongoing, from the time one party files for divorce until the final judgment is entered. This temporary support helps the lower-earning spouse maintain financial stability and pay living expenses during what can be a lengthy divorce process. Courts typically calculate temporary support using standardized guideline formulas based primarily on income differences between the spouses, providing quick determinations without extensive litigation over the numerous Family Code Section 4320 factors. Permanent or long-term spousal support is established in the final divorce judgment and continues after the divorce is finalized. Despite the term “permanent,” this support is not necessarily lifelong but instead continues for whatever duration the court deems appropriate based on a comprehensive analysis of all statutory factors. Long-term support requires a detailed examination of the 4320 factors and cannot be calculated by formula. Rehabilitative alimony is a specific type of support designed to provide financial assistance while the supported spouse obtains education, vocational training, or work experience necessary to become self-sufficient. Courts favor rehabilitative support that has a defined end date and a clear plan for the supported spouse to reenter the workforce or enhance their earning capacity. This type commonly applies in shorter marriages where the lower-earning spouse needs only temporary assistance to reestablish their career. Reimbursement spousal support compensates one spouse for financial contributions made toward the other spouse’s education, training, or career development during the marriage. For example, if one spouse worked to put the other through medical school with the understanding that both would benefit from increased future earnings, reimbursement support acknowledges those contributions. Lump-sum alimony provides a one-time payment or property transfer instead of ongoing monthly fees. This arrangement can give finality and avoid continued financial entanglement between former spouses. Modifiable versus non-modifiable support is another important distinction—parties can negotiate that support payments remain fixed and cannot be modified regardless of changed circumstances, or they can preserve the court’s jurisdiction to modify support as circumstances warrant. Couples can also agree to “Smith-Ostler” orders, which include support based on both a base amount and a percentage of any bonuses, commissions, or additional income earned by the paying spouse. However, these orders can be complicated to administer and enforce.

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About the Authors – Divorce Mediators You Can Trust

Equitable Mediation Services is a trusted and nationally recognized provider of divorce mediation, serving couples exclusively in California, New Jersey, Washington, New York, Illinois, and Pennsylvania. Founded in 2008, this husband-and-wife team has successfully guided more than 1,000 couples through the complex divorce process, helping them reach amicable, fair, and thorough agreements that balance each of their interests and prioritizes their children’s well-being. All without involving attorneys if they so choose.

At the heart of Equitable Mediation are Joe Dillon, MBA, and Cheryl Dillon, CPC—two compassionate, experienced professionals committed to helping couples resolve divorce’s financial, emotional, and practical issues peacefully and with dignity.

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Joe Dillon, MBA – Divorce Mediator & Negotiation Expert

As a seasoned Divorce Mediator with an MBA in Finance, Joe Dillon specializes in helping clients navigate complex parental and financial issues, including:

  • Physical and legal custody
  • Spousal support (alimony) and child support
  • Equitable distribution and community property division
  • Business ownership
  • Retirement accounts, stock options, and RSUs

Joe’s unique blend of financial acumen, mediation expertise, and personal insight enables him to skillfully guide couples through complex divorce negotiations, reaching fair agreements that safeguard the family’s emotional and financial well-being.

He brings clarity and structure to even the most challenging negotiations, ensuring both parties feel heard, supported, and in control of their outcome. This approach has earned him a reputation as one of the most trusted names in alternative dispute resolution.

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Cheryl Dillon, CPC – Certified Divorce Coach & Life Transitions Expert

Cheryl Dillon is a Certified Professional Coach (CPC) and the Divorce Coach at Equitable Mediation. She earned a bachelor’s degree in psychology and completed formal training at The Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC) – an internationally recognized leader in the field of coaching education.

Her unique blend of emotional intelligence, coaching expertise, and personal insight enables her to guide individuals through divorce’s emotional complexities compassionately.

Cheryl’s approach fosters improved communication, reduced conflict, and better decision-making, equipping clients to manage divorce’s challenges effectively. Because emotions have a profound impact on shaping the divorce process, its outcomes, and future well-being of all involved.

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Equitable Mediation provides:

  • Full-service divorce mediation with real financial expertise
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Whether clients are facing financial complexities, looking to safeguard their children’s futures, or trying to protect everything they’ve worked hard to build, Equitable Mediation has the expertise to guide them towards the outcomes that matter most to them and their families.

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