Joe had the privilege of joining Dr. Sarah Hensley and co-host Raina Butcher on The Love Doc Podcast to discuss how mediation can transform the divorce process from a destructive battle into a collaborative solution. As someone who witnessed firsthand the emotional devastation that lawyer-driven litigation can cause families—having been a child of divorce himself—Joe is passionate about offering couples a better path forward.
During the conversation, they explored the “interest-based negotiation” model that Joe has refined over 17 years of private practice. This approach shifts focus from entrenched positions to underlying needs and shared goals, helping couples reach fair agreements while dramatically reducing both costs and emotional damage. They discussed how traditional litigation can reach $200,000—equivalent to a four-year college education—while mediation offers a more affordable and humane alternative.
This episode offers both practical guidance and genuine hope that there’s a kinder, more constructive way forward for families facing separation. You can listen to learn how mediation serves as a bridge to a new chapter defined by cooperation and compassion rather than conflict.
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From Conflict to Cooperation – Joe Dillon on The Love Doc
Host: Dr. Sarah Hensley, The Love Doc, and Raina Butcher
Guest: Joe Dillon, Equitable Mediation Services
In this uplifting episode of The Love Doc Podcast, Dr. Hensley and Raina welcome Joe Dillon, co-founder of Equitable Mediation Services and a seasoned expert in divorce mediation. As a powerful continuation of our Family Court Series, this episode offers listeners a beacon of hope—clear, compassionate alternatives to conventional court separation and custody disputes.
Joe brings both personal insight and profound expertise to this conversation. Inspired by his own experience as a child of divorce who witnessed the emotionally devastating effects of lawyer-driven litigation, Joe’s mission is rooted in preventing similar trauma from impacting other families. With over 17 years of private mediation practice under his belt—and an MBA in finance, plus training from prestigious institutions such as Harvard, MIT, and Northwestern—he combines emotional intelligence and financial savviness to guide couples toward fair, collaborative outcomes.
One of the most compelling parts of the discussion centers on the “interest-based negotiation” model Joe champions—an approach that shifts focus from entrenched positions to underlying needs and shared goals. Joe explains how mediation fosters “win-win” agreements and dramatically reduces costs and emotional damage compared to traditional litigation, which he notes can reach as high as $200,000—the equivalent of a four-year college education.
This episode also shines a spotlight on Joe’s pioneering role in virtual mediation—a service he launched in 2011, well before many embraced remote alternatives during the pandemic. His practices empower families across numerous states (California, New York, New Jersey, Illinois, Pennsylvania, Washington State) to engage in thoughtful, structured mediation from any location.
Throughout the episode, Joe extends tangible resources: from free courses, helpful blogs, and consultation options available through Equitable Mediation, to advice on designing “roommate agreements” when post-divorce couples find it necessary to continue co-habitating for financial or logistical reasons. This episode explores why mediators aren’t just facilitators—they’re peace architects, helping couples untangle complex emotional and financial decisions in ways that protect children, relationships, and dignity.
Why This Episode Matters for Listeners
- Offers a Practical Alternative to Litigation
Through Joe’s personal journey and his data-backed approach, listeners can discover a kinder, more constructive path out of marriage or parent-child tension that preserves both stability and civility. - Reduces Financial and Emotional Toll
As Joe highlights, mediation not only lowers the fiscal burden of divorce but also shields families—especially children—from the trauma of court conflict. - Accessible Anywhere, Anytime
Joe’s virtual-first model makes mediation accessible regardless of geography, fitting seamlessly into modern, busy lives. - Provides Real-World Tools and Empowerment
From negotiation frameworks to free educational content and flexible agreements, this episode equips listeners with knowledge, hope, and actionable steps.
This isn’t just another episode—it’s a lifeline for families navigating the storm of separation. Joe Dillon will show you that healing, fairness, and hope are possible—even when the path seems steep. Mediation isn’t just a process; it’s a bridge to a new chapter defined by cooperation and compassion.
About the Authors – Divorce Mediators You Can Trust
Equitable Mediation Services is a trusted and nationally recognized provider of divorce mediation, serving couples exclusively in California, New Jersey, Washington, New York, Illinois, and Pennsylvania. Founded in 2008, this husband-and-wife team has successfully guided more than 1,000 couples through the complex divorce process, helping them reach amicable, fair, and thorough agreements that balance each of their interests and prioritizes their children’s well-being. All without involving attorneys if they so choose.
At the heart of Equitable Mediation are Joe Dillon, MBA, and Cheryl Dillon, CPC—two compassionate, experienced professionals committed to helping couples resolve divorce’s financial, emotional, and practical issues peacefully and with dignity.
Joe Dillon, MBA – Divorce Mediator & Negotiation Expert
As a seasoned Divorce Mediator with an MBA in Finance, Joe Dillon specializes in helping clients navigate complex parental and financial issues, including:
- Physical and legal custody
- Spousal support (alimony) and child support
- Equitable distribution and community property division
- Business ownership
- Retirement accounts, stock options, and RSUs
Joe’s unique blend of financial acumen, mediation expertise, and personal insight enables him to skillfully guide couples through complex divorce negotiations, reaching fair agreements that safeguard the family’s emotional and financial well-being.
He brings clarity and structure to even the most challenging negotiations, ensuring both parties feel heard, supported, and in control of their outcome. This approach has earned him a reputation as one of the most trusted names in alternative dispute resolution.
Cheryl Dillon, CPC – Certified Divorce Coach & Life Transitions Expert
Cheryl Dillon is a Certified Professional Coach (CPC) and the Divorce Coach at Equitable Mediation. She earned a bachelor’s degree in psychology and completed formal training at The Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC) – an internationally recognized leader in the field of coaching education.
Her unique blend of emotional intelligence, coaching expertise, and personal insight enables her to guide individuals through divorce’s emotional complexities compassionately.
Cheryl’s approach fosters improved communication, reduced conflict, and better decision-making, equipping clients to manage divorce’s challenges effectively. Because emotions have a profound impact on shaping the divorce process, its outcomes, and future well-being of all involved.
What We Offer: Flat-Fee, Full-Service Divorce Mediation
Equitable Mediation provides:
- Full-service divorce mediation with real financial expertise
- Convenient, online sessions via Zoom
- Unlimited sessions for one customized flat fee (no hourly billing surprises)
- Child custody and parenting plan negotiation
- Spousal support and asset division mediation
- Divorce coaching and emotional support
- Free and paid educational courses on the divorce process
Whether clients are facing financial complexities, looking to safeguard their children’s futures, or trying to protect everything they’ve worked hard to build, Equitable Mediation has the expertise to guide them towards the outcomes that matter most to them and their families.
Why Couples Choose Equitable Mediation
- 98% case resolution rate
- Trusted by over 1,000 families since 2008
- Subject-matter experts in the states in which they practice
- Known for confidential, respectful, and cost-effective processes
- Recommendations by therapists, financial planners, and former clients
Equitable Mediation Services operates in:
- California: San Francisco, San Diego, Los Angeles
- New Jersey: Bridgewater, Morristown, Short Hills
- Washington: Seattle, Bellevue, Kirkland
- New York: NYC, Long Island
- Illinois: Chicago, North Shore
- Pennsylvania: Philadelphia, Bucks County, Montgomery County, Pittsburgh, Allegheny County
Schedule a Free Info Call to learn if you’re a good candidate for divorce mediation with Joe and Cheryl.
