Mediation and Divorce Blog - Equitable Mediation Services

Sure, you knew things weren't perfect in your marriage. But it seemed like you got along pretty well.

Didn't argue much. And both spent a lot of happy times with the kids.

But something along the way changed for your wife.

Maybe it was a shock when you heard the news or maybe you saw it coming. But either way, you're saying to yourself, "I can't believe my wife wants a divorce. What should I do? Should I let my wife divorce me amicably?"

It's rare for both spouses to be on the exact same page about divorce at the exact same time. What's more common is wife wants divorce, husband doesn't. Even if the husband is fully aware the marriage has broken down.

That might not make you feel any better, but now that you know your wife wants a divorce, you need to know how best to proceed without losing your kids (and your shirt) in the process.

You and your spouse worked hard throughout all the years of your marriage.

You bought a house, saved for retirement, maybe even treated yourself to a new car or truck.

But now that you’re divorcing, you have questions about what is equitable distribution, how to know what is marital property versus non-marital property, and just who gets what in a divorce - and how it's determined.

You want to make sure that all the money you worked so hard for doesn’t wind up getting wasted on legal fees.

And you don’t get the short end of the stick when it comes to the equitable division of marital property in your divorce.

You've reached the milestone of being married 10 years. So you figured you already got past the hardest parts in a marriage.

Things like:

• Your first year of marriage negotiating the "right way" to load the dishwasher and whether or not to put the toilet seat down;
• The 7-year itch;
• And raising your kids through the terrible 2's.

But regardless of any of those things, something still changed, and here you are getting a divorce after 10 years of marriage.

And after a decade together, there's so much at stake.

Because you both have a lot to lose, you'll need to choose your divorce method carefully.

So what can you do when after a 10 year marriage, divorce is inevitable? And you don't want it to take forever, cost a fortune or destroy your family in the process?