Whether it’s parenting struggles, managing finances or handling of money, digital-age issues, career conflicts or job relocation, sharing of household responsibilities, or general communication patterns...
You’re just not on the same page.
It seems you either avoid discussing these issues, or when you try to, it leads to endless cycles of heated arguments, where neither of you feels heard, and nothing is resolved.
Leaving you both feeling angry, frustrated, and disconnected, while your marriage continues to deteriorate.
If this sounds familiar, perhaps you've thought to see a couples counselor.
Smart move!
But what if your spouse just won't agree to go because they don't believe in it, think it'll work, or want to "be in therapy?"
Or...
The two of you have been going to counseling, but after months, years, or multiple therapists, there's been no progress or resolution in sight.
Making you wonder if you're headed for divorce, or doomed to spend the rest of your life unhappily married!
Marriage Mediation is a non-adversarial, voluntary, practical, future-focused, and solutions-oriented approach to resolving marital conflict.
It’s designed for couples who are experiencing marriage problems, and would prefer to stay together, increase happiness in their relationship, and avoid divorce.
The couple works with third-party, neutral marriage mediators who use dispute resolution techniques to help them resolve their typical, but solvable marital problems in a constructive way. While teaching them skills to enable them to problem solve their own solutions to any conflicts that arise in the future.
If you're like most people, you think mediation is only used by couples who want to end their marriage. But some mediators can also help willing spouses identify, negotiate, and resolve the issues between them, to save their marriage.
There are common issues and recurring conflicts in a marriage, that when left unresolved, can lead to divorce. But learning how to deal with conflict in a productive way - can bring a couple together and strengthen their relationship, instead of driving them apart.
We believe that if more couples were equipped with the tools and skills to communicate more effectively, understand where the other is coming from, negotiate, and work together to resolve their conflicts, there would be many more happy marriages and fewer divorces!
And that’s what marriage mediation is all about!
So, if you are both committed to your marriage, marital mediation might be just what you need to get back on track!
- Joe Dillon and Cheryl Dillon, Relationship Experts
There are many marital issues that can be resolved with the help of a marriage mediator. These issues will vary in complexity based on a couple's unique situation and may include, but is not limited to:
Most anything causing friction in a marriage can usually be resolved in marriage mediation if the parties (both spouses) are committed to the process, and are willing to negotiate and abide by an agreement they create with the help of the marriage mediator(s).
No! Marriage Mediation is not the same as marriage counseling.
Each marriage mediator will have his/her own approach, style and process. But the marital mediation process commonly begins with an initial strategy session to identify and set goals for the specific marital problems and issues a couple wants to resolve.
In subsequent meetings, a skilled mediator will:
A marital conflict resolution process can vary in duration, depending on the number and complexity of the issues, and the willingness of the parties to actively participate, negotiate and come to agreement.
Marital Mediation is not and cannot take the place of counseling obtained from a licensed therapist or mental health provider and some couples find it helpful to engage in both marriage counseling and marital mediation simultaneously.
That being said, sometimes, a wife or husband refuses marriage counseling, but is still willing to work on the relationship.
Marriage mediation services are not appropriate if:
It’s not uncommon if you've been struggling in a bad marriage for years.
But it doesn't need to continue.
Marriage mediation may help you resolve your recurring conflicts, break your destructive cycles, and teach you cooperative problem-resolution. So you have new ways of interacting - and can work together and get better results moving forward!
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