Whether it’s parenting struggles, managing finances or handling of money, digital-age issues, career conflicts or job relocation, sharing of household responsibilities, or general communication patterns...
You’re just not on the same page.
It seems you either avoid discussing these issues, or when you try to, it leads to endless cycles of heated arguments, where neither of you feels heard, and nothing is resolved.
Leaving you both feeling angry, frustrated, and disconnected, while your marriage continues to deteriorate.
If this sounds familiar, perhaps you've thought to see a couples counselor.
But what if your spouse just won't agree to go because they don't believe in it, think it'll work, or want to "be in therapy?"
The two of you have been going to counseling, but after months, years, or multiple therapists, there's been no progress or resolution in sight.
Making you wonder if you're headed for divorce, or doomed to spend the rest of your life unhappily married!
"If you're like most people, you think mediation is only used by couples who want to end their marriage. But a mediator can also help willing spouses identify, negotiate, and resolve the issues between them, to save their marriage.
As a divorce mediation and coaching team with more than 25 years of negotiation and problem-solving experience, we understand the issues and recurring conflicts that are typical in a marriage, that when left unresolved, can lead to divorce.
We’re also a married couple (16 years+) and experience many of the same issues ourselves! But we've learned how to deal with conflict in a productive way - that brings us together and strengthens our relationship, instead of driving us apart.
We believe that if more couples were equipped with the tools and skills to communicate more effectively, understand where the other is coming from, negotiate, and work together to resolve their conflicts, there would be many more happy marriages and fewer divorces!
And that’s what marriage mediation is all about!
So, if you are both committed to your marriage, marital mediation might be just what you need to get back on track!"
- Joe Dillon and Cheryl Dillon, The Equitable Mediation Team
Marital Mediation is a non-adversarial, voluntary, practical, future-focused, and solutions-oriented approach to resolving marital conflict.
It’s designed for couples who are experiencing marriage problems, and would prefer to stay together, increase happiness in their relationship, and avoid divorce.
The couple works with third-party, neutral marriage mediators (Joe and Cheryl) who uses dispute resolution techniques to help them resolve their typical, but solvable marital problems in a constructive way. While teaching them skills to enable them to problem solve their own solutions to any conflicts that arise in the future.
Our marriage mediation services are designed to resolve a variety of conflicts and marital disputes. These marital issues will vary in complexity based on a couple's unique situation and may include, but is not limited to:
No! Marriage Mediation is not the same as marriage counseling.
We call our couples mediation services Marriage CPR because it's Cooperative Problem Resolution!
At a very high level, our marriage mediation process begins with an initial assessment questionnaire completed individually by each spouse.
Next is a Strategy Session where we'll work together to identify and set goals for the specific marital problems and issues that you want to resolve. We'll all also collectively determine if our services are right for you, and if so, which of our flat-fee Marriage CPR programs will best meet your needs.
If moving forward working together, we'll:
Our marital conflict resolution process takes 1 to 5 sessions, depending on the number and complexity of the issues, and the willingness of the parties to actively participate, negotiate and come to agreement.
Sessions take place online via conference call and our easy-to-use meeting software and may be conducted from the comfort of your own home, office, or wherever you have privacy and a high-speed Internet connection. You can be in the same room with your spouse or in separate rooms if you prefer.
Online mediation provides a convenient dispute resolution format and is beneficial for spouses who live or work far apart geographically, have busy schedules, travel frequently or are simply not comfortable sitting in the same room together based on their relationship dynamic.
Sessions take place weekdays, and are typically 90 minutes in duration. Evening appointments are available if you live on the east coast or in the mid-west.
Marital Mediation is not and cannot take the place of counseling obtained from a licensed therapist or mental health provider and some couples find it helpful to engage in both marriage counseling and marital mediation simultaneously.
Our marital mediation services are not appropriate if:
Our Marriage CPR Programs (Marital Mediation Service) are flat-fee and range from $3,900 to $4,900 depending on package selected.
That's easy! Book a marriage mediation strategy session for you and your spouse!
It’s not uncommon if you've been struggling in a bad marriage for years.
But it doesn't need to continue any longer.
Let us help you resolve your recurring conflicts, break your destructive cycles, and teach you cooperative problem-resolution. So you have new ways of interacting - and can work together and get better results moving forward!