Regardless of whether you're the one driving the decision or are on the receiving end of such shocking news, facing a divorce can be utterly terrifying.
In addition to the stress and overwhelming feelings of anger, grief, confusion, frustration and fear, the worries pour in and flood your mind filling you with anxiety.
And that's just the tip of the iceberg.
You may have confided in friends or family but you remain unsure about your next steps. Because they're not divorce professionals and the advice you’re getting from them is based on their personal opinions instead of fact or reality.
You may have spoken to a lawyer, but held back on hiring one because you’ve heard horror stories about fueling a long, messy and expensive legal battle that destroys families.
And you don’t want to be taken advantage of or pushed into doing something that takes you out of your integrity.
You want to keep the peace.
Put your children first.
And maintain control of your emotions, finances and future so you can confidently move through your divorce as quickly, cost-effectively and productively as possible.
Hopefully, you learned on our website that all of those things can be done and are fully within your control. It all comes down to the choices you make.
And you don’t have to do it alone.
Divorce Coaching is all about results.
We’ll work together to go directly to the root of what’s causing you the most divorce-related challenges and create an action plan with a series of easy to follow steps designed to address and overcome those things.
Divorce Coaching is based on personal power – self-awareness, risk-taking and action. Taken together, these aspects of divorce coaching result in a deeply felt empowerment and personal freedom.
There’s no quick fix, but if you commit to making personal growth a priority in your life and trust in the divorce coaching process, your life will change more quickly, profoundly and positively than you ever thought possible.
We’ll work together one-on-one and I’ll guide you through my signature coaching process. And while I have no doubt that at the end of each session(s), you’ll feel supported, inspired and empowered to take action, wait until you experience the real power of divorce coaching – it’s what happens between sessions.
As your coach, I will:
Think it’s too good to be true?
Private, on-on-one coaching sessions are typically conducted weekly via telephone (and also via online screen sharing if/when needed/desired).
The real power of coaching occurs between sessions because you’ll be taking new actions in your everyday life and begin to experience shifts in thoughts, feelings and outcomes.
With that being said, you can work with me for as long as you like (as long as we both agree that progress is being made), but at the start, I suggest that you commit to working together for at least 4 weeks.
After that, we can decide together how to best proceed.
One-on-one coaching is completely private, safe and confidential. I follow the ethical guidelines and professional standards set forth by the International Coach Federation (ICF).
No, coaching and therapy are not the same.
Therapy is a healing profession that typically focuses on the past. It’s about processing your emotional history or diagnosing and treating mental health issues and the therapist uses their expertise to help you work through unhealed emotional traumas – “why” things happened.
Coaching is about the present and future.
A coach doesn’t give advice and doesn’t solve your problems for you. In coaching, you are the expert and while the coach has expertise to share with you, the goal is on empowering you to take full responsibility for the choices you make and the results you achieve. Coaching shifts the emphasis from “why” to “how to,” keeping focus on the current situation and actively developing plans for the future.
Obviously you hire a coach because you want your problems to be resolved and eliminated. Make no mistake, coaching will absolutely do that, but in a way that empowers you, not someone else, to resolve the issues going on in your life. Oh, and by the way, a coach doesn’t believe in problems, only opportunities!
A friend is not the same as a coach.
Surrounding yourself with people who love you can be very comforting at a time when you might be questioning your worth. If you have people in your life who can put their own needs aside and be there for you no matter what, and help you get through your divorce, consider yourself lucky!
But in general, friends don’t really know how to do this. They haven’t been trained and often just go forward based on their desire to be helpful to you.
You’re entitled to have someone in your life that will tell you the truth and stick around when you’re hard to be around and not at your best (and we all know divorce tends to do that). Most friends won’t tell you the hard truth for fear of damaging your friendship.
But the coach isn’t caught up in hoping you’ll like her. The coach will tell it like it is for the purpose of supporting you to see the truth and is willing to be disliked by you in order to get you moving in the direction you say you want to go.
If you’re contemplating a divorce, coaching can help you explore the various reasons and factors driving you to consider this significant, life-altering event.
I’m objective and non-judgmental and can be a great sounding board to help you get the clarity and perspective you need to make a decision that is right for you and create a plan to manage what lies ahead no matter which path you take – even if your ultimate decision is to stay and work on improving your marriage.
And since coaching takes place via telephone, there are no geographical limitations.
Only you can answer this question.
Not only does coaching require an investment of time and money, it requires a commitment to making personal growth a priority.
If you’re willing to take action to make significant changes and improvements in your life, and the risk involved in making these changes is less scary to you than the risk of continuing to live with whatever is holding you back, then coaching is right for you.
In contrast, if you’re looking for someone to solve your problems for you, or you’re not ready to take responsibility for your own life, coaching is not right for you at this time.
Getting started with divorce coaching is easy:
P.S. - If you know you want to make some improvements but don’t know the specifics, not to worry. Most people have an easier time deciding what they don’t want, instead of what they do want.
If you’re not sure exactly what you want to work on, just let me know – I have some tools to help you figure it all out.
If you’re ready to take action, what are you waiting for? Start now!
Cheryl, Here's some reverse-coaching for you - not that you need it :)
You have made a huge difference in my life and I'm very grateful. How are you so smart that you understand me better than I do? You have been amazingly perceptive and sensitive with me. Thank you. I needed your help so much, and you delivered.
Every day I reflect about my goals and I ask myself if my current activity is in line with those goals. If not, I make adjustments. Incidentally this has also helped me with weight loss, which was not a big goal of mine but is a silver lining. Thanks again and keep up with your fabulous work!
Cheryl has been instrumental in coaching me through several major life decisions, both personally and professionally. She is caring, trustworthy and experienced in helping to gain clarity through what I call 'mental clutter'.
Cheryl's coaching skills have helped me gain confidence, focus and drive to make the right choices and then make them happen! In addition to being a great driving force, she always demonstrates sensitivity and confidentiality, which I truly appreciate.
She is a true professional in every aspect and very well respected in her field of coaching.
Cheryl is a highly professional and talented individual who has an amazing ability to connect well with people. She is not your ordinary life coach!
She is passionate about helping others and is determined to make a positive difference in the lives people who are struggling with divorce issues.
She is most trustworthy and approachable.
Cheryl was an amazing find for me at the exact right time. She focused on what I wanted and more importantly, what I needed.
She has the insight to see the root of the issue and the tact to get you there too.
I have come away with some very powerful concepts that I can and do apply to my life. Thank you Cheryl!