How to Tell Kids about Divorce, Help Them Cope and Be Good Co-Parents

Equitable Mediation

They're often feeling a tremendous sense of guilt and responsibility, even though they had nothing to do with this adult decision to end a marriage.

As a parent, you want to do everything you can to care for and protect your kids. So what's the best way for how to tell children about divorce? And what are some good ways for helping children cope with divorce?

When it comes to divorce and its effects on children, what do kids understand based on their age and developmental stage? How as parents can you spot and address problems?

What are some tips for healthy and successful co-parenting when divorcing with kids? And finally, what are some children books dealing with divorce?

This post is all about divorce with children.

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Topics: Planning for Divorce, Divorce Support

Positive Things About Divorce

Cheryl Dillon, Divorce Coach

Years ago, when I was in the middle of a divorce, I remembered thinking I'd never be happy again.

My life was in such turmoil and I was so consumed by sadness and anger that I couldn't imagine any future where I would be over my bad marriage or divorce, let alone be able to learn, heal, grow and move on.

If you are preparing to start the divorce process or are currently in the midst of your own divorce, you can probably relate!

But I want you to know that there is a such thing as a positive divorce.

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Topics: Divorce Support, Contemplating Divorce

Divorce After 20 Years of Marriage or More

Cheryl Dillon, Divorce Coach
  • Divorce after 20 years or more is a complex undertaking with a lot at stake.
  • There's very little guidance on how things should be divided and decided and both family and financial dynamics will play key roles in how you move forward.
  • Here's what you can do to understand the issues you'll be facing and plan a smart course of action to preserve wealth and minimize legal bills if you're divorcing after 20 years or more.

If you've decided to divorce after 20 years or longer, you're probably feeling very alone. Like you're the only couple in the world facing divorce after 50.

But despite what you hear about the falling divorce rate, getting divorced after 20 years of marriage - even after 25 and 30 years for that matter, is not only common these days, but it's on the rise.

According to Bowling Green University's National Center for Family & Marriage Research, from 1990 to 2012, the divorce rate for 55 to 64-year-olds more than doubled, while the rate of divorce for the 65 and older population tripled!

There are many reasons for a divorce at midlife - also known as  gray divorce.

But regardless of why couples are choosing to divorce after staying together for so many years, it’s important to understand that divorce in a long-term marriage is markedly different and much more complicated than divorce after 10 years or less. 

Let's take a closer look at how divorcing after 20 years of marriage (or more) can impact the specific financial, emotional and parental issues you'll face as you go through your divorce.

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Topics: Planning for Divorce, Amicable, Fair, Child-Focused, Divorce Mediation