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Is Divorce About The Law Or Money?
Which do you think drives divorce the most?
Laws or Money?
Some people think divorce is all about the law. And this makes sense because the divorce process legally dissolves the union of marriage.
Other people think divorce is all about money. After all, three of the four main topics addressed in divorce are related to financial matters: child support, spousal support or maintenance and equitable distribution of marital assets and liabilities.
While there is no doubt that the divorce process itself focuses on the legal and financial aspects of divorce, there is a third aspect that is equally, if not more important, yet is often overlooked.
What is it?
Emotions Drive Divorce
Emotions are what drive how long the divorce process will take, what it will cost and how stressful it will be for you and your children.
Emotions drive the decisions you’ll make – critical decisions that will impact you and your children for many years to come. Emotions determine how you’ll fare through and beyond your divorce and even the joy and fulfillment you will or won’t have in your life moving forward.
Divorce is all about emotions.
That’s why it’s so important to seek divorce support to learn how to effectively deal with any toxic, divorce-related emotions. Without divorce support, you will pay a very high price for your emotions, now and quite possibly for the rest of your life.
Who Do I Turn To For Divorce Support?
Spending time with people who care about you can be a welcome source of reassurance at a time when you feel like your life is upside down.
However, unless you have a friend or family member who has been professionally trained, it is unlikely they’ll have the expertise to provide the honest and objective divorce support you need to deal with your emotions.
You Need Divorce Support With Cheryl Dillon,
If you want to deal with divorce-related toxic emotions once and for all and successfully move through and beyond your divorce, you need a partner and a plan.
Divorce Coach Cheryl Dillon is that partner and her powerful plan will help you put the past behind you and get you moving in the right direction – forward!
What About Therapy?
Therapists tend to focus on the past and while you’ll talk about your feelings to try to understand why things happened in the past, you won’t gain the “how to” or action plan you need to let go of your negative emotions so you can move forward.
Most of the time, people decide to see a therapist for divorce support for one of two reasons:
- They started seeing a therapist separately or together with their spouse in an effort to try to repair the marriage and avoid divorce. Now that divorce is underway, they may just continue to see the therapist because he/she is familiar with their history.
- They don’t know that there are alternatives to therapy that often yield faster, better and more sustainable results.
If you want to move forward with your life instead of staying stuck in the painful past, then therapy may NOT be the best choice for divorce support.
Regaining Control Of Your Divorce-Related Emotions
Divorce can be an intense emotional roller coaster, with extreme ups and downs, and no end in sight. Regaining control is critical to survival.
Cheryl has the expertise to help you regain control of your emotions so that you can move through and beyond your divorce as quickly, cost-effectively and productively as possible.
The Consequences Of Anger
It’s completely normal to experience anger during divorce. But if you let your anger get the best of you, you’ll end up hurting yourself the most.
Unprocessed divorce-related anger will likely cause more damage to you financially and emotionally by fueling a long and expensive legal battle. Or it may cloud your judgment and cause you to make snap decisions you will later regret.
Learn more about the consequences of anger in divorce and how divorce support with Cheryl can help release it.
Moving On After Divorce
The divorce was rough, but now that it’s over you may be facing a whole new set of problems. New realities hit hard: How will you live on this new tightened budget? How will you succeed as a single parent?
Facing these challenges alone is scary and unsettling. Cheryl Dillon is ready to help you turn your problems into opportunities and create a new life you love after divorce.