Divorce Mediation Tips and a Divorce Mediation Checklist

By Joseph Dillon, Divorce Mediator

Divorce Mediation ChecklistThe divorce process can be an extremely stressful time, and can leave both parties feeling overwhelmed. The good thing about mediation is that it is conducted in a safe, comfortable environment and involves the facilitation of open, honest and amicable communication between both parties. Still, taking that initial step to make an appointment and sit down with a mediator can be nerve wracking.

To help ease the tension, one of the best tips we can give you is to know ahead of time what to expect. Both for when you arrive and what will be expected of you throughout the process. Our divorce mediation checklist can go a long way towards helping the process go as smoothly as possible. By providing you with a comprehensive list of everything you’ll need in order to peacefully negotiate the terms of your divorce, you’ll be able to make informed decisions based on real information.

Your information.

But there’s more to a peaceful divorce than just a mediation checklist. Divorce brings with it a host of issues which if you’re not careful can wind up costing you greatly (both financially and emotionally) in the long run. It’s important to remember this is a negotiation. And in negotiations, sometimes you get and sometimes you give. Tip #2 is to remember to step back to look at the big picture to keep things on track and avoid going down “the rabbit hole” for each and every small item. Like toasters and staplers.

Yes – clients fight over toasters and staplers.  I kid you not.

What to Expect

Before we get to the divorce mediation checklist, it can be helpful to get an idea of what to expect when you meet with a mediator. While it would be ideal, most divorces are not completed within the first mediation session. Rather, this meeting is typically used to set a foundation from which to work. During this time, the mediator will gather information and ask each party to list their goals as they pertain to important issues such as children, assets, and property. This will provide an overview of your specific situation, and help identify the issues which may need to be worked out. Finally, the mediator will then go over the laws of your state, and how they pertain to divorce.

The subsequent sessions will involve delving deeper into the items on the checklist and working through conflict to reach an amicable agreement between both parties. The mediator’s job is to assist both spouses in discussing their concerns openly and calmly, and to work together to achieve a divorce settlement that everyone can feel comfortable with. The topics covered during mediation will involve everything that a court would consider, including child support, alimony, parenting plans, property distribution, and any other issue that may be relevant in your specific case.

Divorce Mediation Checklist

The last tip we can share with you is be as prepared as possible prior to sitting down with your spouse and a mediator for a session. The more information that you have with you, the smoother the process will go, and the quicker you and your spouse will be able get on with your lives and focus on the future. It’s important to remember that while not all of the information contained on the mediation checklist will be needed in your first session, having it all at your fingertips will make the process go much smoother for everyone involved.

Mediation is a voluntary process that requires active participation by the parties. Having all of the items on our checklist at the ready will keep costs down, reduce stress levels and lead to better agreements, in our humble opinion.

For less than the cost of two minutes of an attorneys time, you can have at your fingertips, a comprehensive divorce mediation checklist and save yourself thousand of dollars on your divorce.

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Divorce can be a difficult, confusing and complicated experience. Being prepared ahead of time can help make the situation much more cost-effective and much less stressful for both of you. These divorce mediation tips and checklist can be instrumental in helping you work toward reaching an agreement that you both find fair and equitable.

If you’re a resident of New Jersey or Illinois, give us a call at (877) 732-6682 to schedule an initial meeting for you and your spouse today.

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Joe Dillon oversees the firm’s practice areas of mediation and divorce financial analysis, and serves clients in both Illinois and New Jersey. Joe and the team at Equitable Mediation have the capabilities to address the unique needs of the “whole” client from a legal, financial and emotional perspective through it's inter-related practice areas of divorce mediation, divorce financial analysis and divorce recovery coaching. Joe is an avid traveler and enjoys volunteering his time helping homeless animals in both Chicago, IL and Princeton, NJ. He can be reached in NJ at (908) 864-2177 or in IL at (312) 583-7436. +Joseph Dillon | G+