When to Divorce: A Tough Question This Time of Year

When to divorce is a tough question especially during the holiday season. For most of the folks looking to hire a divorce mediator this time of year, it is a common question as starting with Thanksgiving and continuing through the New Year, you’ve got nearly a month and half of family, friends and festivities to deal with. Given that you’re contemplating a divorce, you’re probably not exactly in the holiday spirit which is completely understandable and so you may be asking yourself the question of when to divorce and not exactly coming up with an answer.

While there’s never a perfect time to divorce, as a divorce mediator I can tell you this: don’t let a single event such as a holiday determine when to divorce. Divorce is not a decision to be taken lightly and does require a fair amount of soul searching and special consideration given that it is the second most stressful event in life, second only to the death of a spouse. My advice? Talk to your spouse and figure it out together. If you and your spouse can get through the holidays without doing any further damage to your relationship (especially if you’re parents) then there will be plenty of time after the holidays to divorce. If when you sit to discuss it things get heated and you don’t feel that you can be civil to each other through the holidays, perhaps you may wish to consider seeking a divorce mediator as you don’t want things to get so bad you wind up having to hire lawyers. And if you are uncomfortable speaking with your spouse, you can always talk to a divorce coach.

When to divorce is certainly a tough question but believe me when I say (and I know it may sound cliche) the answer lies within you and with a little thinking and probing, I am certain you’ll find the answer you seek.